Day One…..again
Like many other people I’m not hopping on this weight-loss bandwagon for the first time. I’m hoping that this time I can wrap my head around the fact that I won’t get instant results, and it won’t be easy. But like that saying…anything worth having is worth working hard for. I can honestly say I don’t know when I wasn’t fat….or when I didn’t feel fat. Growing up, my mother would constantly remind me of how I didn’t ‘measure up;’ Coments from as early on as my 3rd year of life constantly haunt my thoughts. Come to think of it, I wasn’t so bad off until the end of my second year of university. Then life got rough and I got to be where I am now: very far from friends and family, in a lonely, nearly sexless marriage, and very overweight. Finally at the age of 24 I’ve realized that it doesn’t really matter what everone else wishes for me, it’s what I want for me that matters. I want to be healthy, I want to have a happy marriage, and I’m no longer afraid to cut the ties that bind.
Aren’t we all in the same boat. Tough though. I think I blamed my mother for a lot until I was about 40. It is baggage, and you will give it up when you are sick of it. Sounds as though you are doing that right now. Good luck, teaching is very rewarding. You are only 24, I can hardly remember being that young. If your marriage is tough going, wait to have kids, until you are able to make it livable…..REally.
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Good job coming on here! It helps to have support! I went and recruited my friends and family so that someone who actually sees me face to face will help me hold myself accountable. It is easy to go online and write to a bunch of anonymous people, “So, I didn’t exercise today.” MUCH harder to do that when your husband, your mom, and friends, who made a commitment to see you through, have access to your profile and can see what you did and didn’t do!
Maybe this blog I did awhile back will help you….?
Go on, pass me by. You’ll all make your goals way before I do. And I don’t really care anymore. I used to beat myself up because I was maintaining week after week, sometimes even gaining a pound or two! But I have to say, look again at my weight ticker…… see a big loss? OK, look again, see a quick loss? That’s right. Slow and steady works. And stays off. I average 2 lbs a month. It took me 50 years of yo-yo dieting to learn that fast doesn’t work when it comes to weight loss. If you take your time your brain will reprogram itself to prefer healthy food. It’s a fact. And it’s true, as you age it just gets harder to lose. So start changing your brain now. My mantra is ‘only eat food that is good for me’. Of course I go off track from time to time, but I have come to realize the only payoff is a gain and regret. I’m a slow learner, and I’m a slow loser and that’s OK with me. Please, please don’t be impatient. I just want to shake some of these gals I see on here who expect to lose 5 lbs a week and will do almost any crazy thing to do it! It will come back to haunt them, eventually, and then some.
Welcome. This is a magical place, at least I think so. I have been battling the buldge for almost 20yrs and have had little long term success to date. But I have learned here that it is not a diet or a way to lose wieght, it is a life change. I dont wiegh myself all the time or even measure myself(I think I have done both like 2-3x in the past two months)It is too devastating to not see results so I dont do it, I measure my success daily by how well I eat and how much I exercise. Make small changes first and BLOG, it is very important to have people support you and help you through the tuff spots and everyone here is soooooo supportive and inspirational. You can do this and we will be here to help see you through. Do it for you and your health, not just to see the pounds drop off, let that be a reward for being healthy. Sparkpeople has an excellent nutrition tracker and excercise tracker but the blogging and support here can’t be beat. check them out, it is very important to track your foods to see where you need improvement. Good luck. You can do it.
And this one, too.
So many times I see a new buddy appear, with the same ‘apple face’ and no weight tracker. In fact, when I first came to buddyslim I was an apple, too. Then after a while, the realization that there is no need to hide comes to most of us. It is liberating to post your picture, even the ‘whole body shot’ that most of us thought we would never share. Putting myself and my true weight out there for all to see, did it ever feel good. I can quit wondering what people would think if they knew how fat I was, if they would still like me…. you know ‘in real life’ we’ve all felt the disdain that some people feel toward ‘fat people’. It is so hurtful that it becomes something we try to avoid. At least I did. Avoid situations that put me in the spotlight, stand a little behind someone or something for the dreaded photo, didn’t eat in public unless I had to (and then I was very shy about eating too much, that was for later, alone) and always wear baggy clothes, like they’d think it was a big shirt and I was really smaller … ?? But it’s different here, no one judges or looks away. No snickers.. just acceptance and a lot of support and even love and hugs and friendships. So I encourage those who are hiding to come on out. Post the pics, post the weight tracker. It’s worth a try, what have you got to lose? It made losing much easier for me. I don’t know why.
Also, Welcome to Buddyslim! This site has been a lifesaver for me. Having friends in the same predicament is invaluable. Having support and motivation, without making me feel that I’m being judged and found inferior because I’m fat…. I can’t tell you how much it’s helped me. I know it will help you too!
Hey! I’m not trying to hide! I’ve tried to upload a pic, but it keeps saying that the file’s too big, when it’s only a 3×4 shot…AHH!
That is so aggravating, it’s why I was an apple for so long. lol I had to download my pic to photo bucket, or photo shop…either one, and then resize it to fit .. it took me forever to figure it out. Good luck.
I don’t have the time to exercise let alone upload a shot, just kidding.
I too hear a voice in the back of my head from my father when I was a chubby teenager, that I was getting fatter? the only reason it bothered me was because he was the last person I would have thought would make a comment like that, but anyway….. now I am an adult and my husband and kids love me for who I am and as long as I am happy they are happy for me too.
yeah! i got a pic up, but it’s about a year old….I can’t seem to resize my pics without parts of them going white(?) so I scanned one
and it worked.
Hi and welcome to the site! :o)
